Cancer has a way of making a person feel like the loneliest member of a large club. Even for those surrounded by the very best family, friends, coworkers and community, there are still moments when it seems no one quite understands what someone is going through. Sometimes, what a person needs most isn’t another medical explanation; it’s another individual who can hold their hand and say, “Yep. Me too.”
That’s what makes a cancer support group so special. It is a place to truly answer the question, “How are you doing?” It’s a place to cope with the side effects of treatment. It’s a place to work through practical problems, like balancing work and personal care. It’s a place to communicate fear, anger, and sadness.
“Coming from a school size of about 70 and a class size of seven, many people assume that small schools lack opportunity, but they are dead wrong,” said Jade Uhlich, senior at Drake-Anamoose High School.
Jade is the dictionary definition of opportunity. She has participated in every single extracurricular activity available through school, including Future Business Leaders of America, Future Farmers of America, Students Against Destructive Decisions, 1ACT, Science Olympiad, Cyber Madness, Student Council, 4-H, Academic Challenge, National Science Bowl and volunteering at the school library, to name a few. She has served as the state and local officer for FBLA, and held the title of National Resource Director for the National Mountain Plains Council. And, if that wasn’t enough, when a program didn’t exist that she wanted to do, she created it — like reading to special needs students every Wednesday.
I’ve been writing about kind and warmhearted people for almost a decade, and if there’s one thing I’ve learned it’s that like attracts like; shake a tree to get one nice North Dakotan, and a whole bushel will come tumbling out.
For example, a lovely resident of Valley Senior Living in Grand Forks named Wendy wanted to support the Grand Forks Public Schools’ Giving Tree Pantry, and so she held a necessities drive at the facility — and because the staff and the families of Valley Senior Living wanted to support both Wendy and Grand Forks Public Schools, they donated in force. Wonderful birds of a feather flock together.
And, sometimes, they throw Frisbees together.
In college, I almost accidentally majored in archaeology. It happened my freshman year, while I was hunting through the coursebook trying to figure out a workaround for a math requirement and stumbled upon Introduction to Archaeology. Intro to Archaeology led to Archaeology of Ancient Egypt, which led to Mycenaean Civilizations, and on and on for every semester of my undergraduate degree. Somewhere around the deciphering of Lost Languages and the emergence of the Ancient Mayans it became evident that a career in archaeology was not in my future — archaeology is for people who don’t avoid math — but it did lead to a lifelong of love for the profession.
At least a dozen times a year, longtime readers of the Grand Forks Herald will come up to me and ask, “Are you Big or Little?” I am not the first member of my family to write a regular column for the Grand Forks Herald; I am the second. My mother, Robin Silverman, shared her own stories with the region starting in January of 1986. Many of those columns featured my younger sister and me, affectionately named “Little” and “Big,” respectively. My mom clicked her last clack of the typewriter on her column in 1994 when I, the Big — by then 14 years old and 4 inches shorter than Little — deemed her stories “too embarrassing for words.” Fast-forward 32 years and hundreds of my own authored stories about my ridiculous self and it turns out there were plenty of words left. Sorry, Mom.
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